Getting What You Want Series - It’s in the Doing

Doing is about choices and can best be described as our thinking and acting.  Both are voluntary and primary influencers with regard to how we feel since our emotions follow our thinking and acting.  Genetically we are encoded to feel good so all of our doing from our first breath to our last, whether conscientiously or not is our best attempt to feel good.   

Easier said than done; the challenge is to become purposeful and intentional with our doing.  A best practice is to learn how to evaluate what promotes our well-being and what sabotages it.  Utilizing self-examination and explaining our doing will play a vital role to feeling good and to sustaining a meaningful life.

Another way to look at doing is to consider it the development and execution of the strategies needed to get what we want.

Lining Up Your Doing Strategies with Your Wanting Goals

1.     What are you doing now to get what you want?

2.     What have you done in the past that has helped you get what you want? 

3.     What have you done that didn’t work very well?

4.     Who has been successful at getting what you want? 

5.     What did they do to get it?

6.     Who will you look to for support, feedback and encouragement?

7.     What are the first 3 things you believe you need to do to get what you want?

8.     When will you start doing what you need to do?

9.     How committed are you to doing what you’ve determined needs to be done?

10. What “doing” would you suggest to others who want what you want?

11. What obstacles or roadblocks do you anticipate you will need to work around in order to do what needs to be done?

12. What is your plan for potential challenges?

13. Are you willing to be both gentle and firm with yourself when you self reflect daily on the effectiveness of what you are doing?

14. How will you celebrate your milestones as you do what you set out to do?

A strategy that will prove helpful is for you to write out how your life will be better if you get what you want.  Look for pictures that represent to you how your life would be if you had what you wanted or create your own pictures.  Imagery is a powerful tool in accomplishing in life what you want.  Put those images where you can see them often.  

What to do if you find yourself discouraged or when you find yourself thinking it isn’t worth it? Go back and look at the images remembering how you believe your life will be better.  Then move right into self-evaluation so you can check out what your doing and make any adjustments needed. 

Still learning,

Honey